Gracious Modest

EXCERPTS FROM A WARM CUP

HNYB: ” I nod looking at the way you hesitate to take my hand resting so near yours. “I know you’re  already gone”, I tell myself. I will forget the feel of your hands on my skin. I will smile and tell you that I’m happy for you because that’s what you want to hear and believe. I will not hope you will be back soon nor say that “I wish I am going with you”. Instead, I will keep in mind that there is nothing between us anymore. It’s just that the coffee is too warm and I am so cold.

10.29.06.9..2409

“If you see me walking the road with someone else, it’s not because I like his company.. It’s because you’re not brave enough to walk beside me. If you hear me talking about him all the time, it’s because you’re deaf to hear my heart beat. If you feel that I’m falling with someone new, it’s not what I really feel.. It’s because I want you to know that I do have the heart to love, not just you. If you feel that I don’t love you, you know that it was never true.. It’s just that you’re too insensitive not to feel the love that I’ve always had for you. “

When FaLLing In Love

“When it comes to love,
you need not fall but rather surrender,
surrender to the idea that you must love yourself
before you can love another.
You must absolutely trust yourself
before you can absolutely trust another
and most importantly you must accept your flaws
before you can accept the flaws of another.“

FaLLing In Love

~Philosophy~

WiLL LOve Work @ Work?

Studies reveal that work is one of the most common places couples meet.  In fact, four in ten of us admit to having been romantically linked to a co-worker. Personally, i don’t agree to the idea of having a lover at work. Yes, there are some who dared but what sucks is the  risk that office romance can wind up wreaking havoc on your career, potentially damaging your working relationships and reputation at the office. Moreover, the tendency of getting used to each other and eventually making your everyday companionship routinary and boring could make love  easily fade away.  Another thing,  what if you end up with a bad break up? How are you going to handle the situation seeing each other and working together 8 hours a day, 7 days a week? Moving on would be hard. You may end up losing your job as well. tsk..tsk..tsk..

Despite of the downfalls of office dating, many people have find their love at work and even end up marrying each other. So, if you’re into it. Take note of these do’s and dont’s in office dating:

Office Dating Do’s:

• Do take the practical approach to a potential attraction towards a co-worker. Make sure to review the policies of your employer before making a move. Just like any other move, make sure the benefits out weigh the risks. In other words, if company policy says no dating, don’t do it. If it’s not mentioned and it feels right to you, give it a shot.
• Do see the reality of the situation for what it is. Dating someone at work might not be an option for you. If no one else in your office is dating a co-worker there may be a reason for it. Don’t force things. If your interest is based solely on physicality, be careful.
• Do play it cool. Dating a co-worker can start a firestorm of tittle-tattle, controversy and water-cooler gossip, so it’s best to keep things quiet for as long as you can – or at least until you know if it’s serious. Even then, if you’re not ready for the weird looks, awkward smirks and whispers, then think again before asking that colleague out. Play it cool and don’t give people any excess reason to spread rumors.
• Do continue to do your work and keep up with your responsibilities. If you’re dating a higher up, you may not want to slack off and give your co-workers any reason for contempt or potential resentment. If you get promoted with the help of your office-mate, then keeping up with your productivity will be essential to keeping your reputation in-place amongst your co-workers.

Office Dating Don’ts:

• Don’t get involved with anyone who is, or could potentially be a subordinate. If someone reports to you, forget it. In fact, forget even thinking about it. The potentials and risk for a lawsuit and consequences are greater than the benefits. You’re better off thinking about handing in your letter of resignation before you ask your assistant out.
• Don’t be reckless. Showing your feelings and getting physical on the job might not be the best idea. The “h” word, i.e. harassment or even worse yet the “s.h.” word, as in sexual harassment can destroy everything you’ve worked so hard for. If things don’t go well between you and your new found love they could quickly turn to legal heartache, if you’re not careful. Simply leave the heavy petting and cat calling outside of the workplace and spare yourself the potential embarrassment by avoiding the chance of harassment accusations.
• Don’t abuse or take advantage of the situation. Never use company funds to entertain your newly found special-someone. Don’t leave triple-x voicemails, notes or emails for your office babe.
• Don’t ever engage in sexual activity on company property. This one’s fairly straightforward. And yes, company property includes stairwells, supply closets, restrooms and company parking lots.

“Choose between yesterday and tomorrow. Pick one. Stick with it.”,

To all the ships on the sea and to all the ports. To all my friends, my family and strangers. “This is a message and a prayer. The message is that during my trips I found a great truth. I have already found what everybody is looking for…and few find: „the person for whom I was born to love. ” Somebody like me, from Outer Banks county… …from the mysterious Atlantic. ” O person rich in simple values… …a person who learnt on his own. A port in which I am always at home. The wind, the problems… …or a little death can’t destroy this house. I pray for all the people to know such love and to recover from it. If my prayer is listened to, there won’t be guilt any more, or regrets. Neither anger. Please, God. Amen!”

Catherine

Message in A Bottle

by Nicholas Sparks

SOLACE

it’s me against the worLd……. (-’-)

REspect my Right to Privacy!

phew! been a while with a visitor! thank God today, i was able to indulge in solitude.
hmmmm i’m afraid i might get used to your presence….

Mah DATING Strengths & Weaknesses kuno!

Dating Strengths	Dating Weaknesses
1. Spirituality – 84.6% 2. Financial Situation – 76.9% 3. Appearance – 75% 4. Adventurousness – 66.7% 5. Flirtiness – 62.5%	1. Vanity – 75% 2. Limited Interests – 55.6% 3. Humorlessness – 50%

Dating Strengths Explained
Spirituality – Your spiritual side brings you peace and balance, and keeps you grounded. This is attractive, as you can help reinforce this quality in other people. Financial Situation – You’ve got your financial situation under control, which is a very desirable quality. Be careful to avoid guys who are only interested in your money. Appearance – Despite what some will say, appearance matters in dating. You get high marks on appearance. Just make sure you balance it out with other qualities. Adventurousness – You are willing to try new things and be spontaneous. You want to get out there and really live, and you will attract people with a similar love of life. Flirtiness – Flirting is a good way to break the ice, and you are a pro at it. Being flirtatious will open up many dating opportunities.
Dating Weaknesses Explained
Vanity – Learn to put a lower priority on looks. Appearance is, of course, important, but vanity is undesireable. The only people you will attract are the superficial. Limited Interests – Being interested or involved in more things makes you a more well-rounded and interesting person. Try to branch out into new things. Humorlessness – You need to learn how to take a joke, or better yet how to tell a good one. A well-developed sense of humor is high on the list of desired traits for daters.
What Are Your Dating Strengths and Weaknesses?

InevitabLe InfideLities

ain’t gonna be the other gurL!

i believe there’s a thin line between friendship and desire revolving around two people of opposite sex.. that’s why i’m drawing the Line! i have to act now because the Longer it takes the harder for it to uproot.

over you

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A Woman’s Question

To those who will dare Love me:

Do you know you have asked for the costLiest thing
Ever made by the Hand above?
A woman’s heart , and a woman’s Life -
And a woman’s wonderfuL Love.
Do you know you have asked for this priceLess thing
As a chiLd might ask for a toy?
Demanding what others have died to win,
With a reckLess dash of a boy.
You have written my Lesson of duty out,
ManLike, you have questioned me.
Now stand at the bars of my woman’s souL
UntiL i shaLL question thee.
You require your mutton shaLL aLways be hot,
Your socks and shirt be whoLe;
i require your heart be true as God’s stars
And as pure as His heaven your souL.
You require a cook for your mutton and beef, I require a far greater thing;
A seamstress you’re wanting for socks and shirts -
i Look for a man and a king.
A king for the beautifuL reaLm caLLed Home,
And a man that his Maker God,
ShaLL Look upon as He did on the first
And say, “it is very good.”
I am fair and young, but the rose may fade
From this soft young cheek one day,
WiLL you Love me then ‘mid the faLLing Leaves,
As you did ‘mong the bLossoms of May?
Is your heart an ocean so strong and true,
I may Launch my aLL on it’s tide?
A Loving woman finds heaven or heLL
On the day she is made a bride.
I require aLL things that are grand and true,
ALL things that a man should be;
if you give this aLL, i wouLd stake my Life
To be aLL you demand of me.
If you cannot be this, a Laundress and cook
You can hire and LittLe to pay;
But a woman’s heart and a woman’s Life are not to be won that way.